Stone: Bismuth

The Mantra: Om Vyaktitya Na’ham


The Key:


Much deeper than our personality – or rather, than all our various personalities –


our real Person can be found, the true Self in us who

has been wearing them like an actor puts on

his theater disguises.


Which disguise have you put on?


How do they make you feel?


a) Our personality and even most of our “individuality


is like an isolated drop of water,


and so is the subliminal memory of all the “drops” that we have identified ourselves with in the past.

There only one way for a little drop to begin to comprehend the immensity of the ocean of which it is a part:


not to be any longer be concerned so much about its preferences

and let go of the attachment to be carried around by

a particular wave instead of another.


Sri Aurobindo reminds us again that:   


The person is a mask.


If we want to gain universality and rise into the Transcendence

we must first of all lose our personality.


It that a problem for you?

You don’t feel quite ready to lose it yet?


It will come.

Gurdjeff agrees:


Before real growth becomes possible

our personality must die.


Are you ready to let your personality die?

If not, why not?

Don’t be deceived.


it may look like a shelter, but

it is really a PRISON.


As Nisargadatta Maharaj pointed out, in order to become free at last of our limiting personality we must first become aware that:


The person is merely the result of a misunderstanding.

There is no such thing.


Feelings, thoughts and actions race before the watcher in endless

succession, leaving traces in the brain and creating

an illusion of continuity.


How clearly can you see this?


b) See how your personality is not something fixed and definite


but an ever-changing, provisory process more like the steps of an infinite

journey of the surface of your being towards its only

stable center, your Inner Being.


Nisargadatta Maharaj had the right attitude:


The person is what I appear to be to other persons.


To myself I am the infinite expanse of consciousness in which

innumerable persons emerge and disappear

in endless succession.


Who are you to yourself?

Mooji ‘s advice is:

Come to the place where the seeing, the perceiving, is impersonal.

This is the only treasure a human being

can find and be.


Ouspensky has a warning:


You must not trust your false personality – its ideas, its words, its actions.

You cannot destroy it, but you can make it passive for some time

and then, little by little, you can make it weaker.


How can you trust something which keeps changing from moment to moment?


Wu Hsin’s advice is:


See that the person is, in reality, nothing more than a verbal construct and that there is no entity as such. This is the Primal Error, assigning reality to something which is merely an idea.


Drop the idea that you are nameable and describable.

You are not.

There are no persons; there are only roles performed by animated bodies.


c) Until we are ready to do without it altogether,


our personality must be transformed into a much less materialistic one and above all made as free as possible from the interference of the ego.


Once the ego is gone or at least sufficiently weakened its new foundation

will be the Divine Presence in us.



As Wu Hsin said,


Identification with the personal localizes.
It is a contraction, a smallness.

When this is dropped,
one expands to encompass

the entire cosmos.


The entire cosmos is within us.

Plotinus offers a delightful Way:


It is ecstasy the faculty by which the soul

divests itself of its personality.


In this state the soul becomes loosened from its material prison, separated from individual consciousness,


and becomes absorbed in the Infinite Intelligence

from which it emanated.


Can you feel this ecstasy?


d) Never confuse your personality with your real Self,

the Player of the Dreamgame,


and realize that you have mostly been focusing your attention on your personality’s external aspects


while it can only be understood and changed on levels

much deeper within us.


According to Maxwell Maltz:


Realizing that our actions, feelings and behavior are the result of our own images

and beliefs give us the level that psychology always needed

for changing personality.


Never say: “I am this, I am like that”

But tell yourself


There is no such thing as a “person” in me, only the total sum

of my leftover ignorance and limitations.

Or say with the words of the Voice of the Silence:


Ere thy Soul’s mind can understand, the bud of personality

must be crushed out.


How will you crush it out?

It is not as difficult as it may seem at first.

Or if you prefer say with Nisargadatta Maharaj:


The person is in unrest and resistance to the very end. The personality

is but a product of our imagination.


How clearly can you see this?

Why your imagination created the personality you are at the moment identified with?


The Devil’s Advocate:

I can only repeat what I already said: luckily for us, almost all humans fail to understand that their cherished “person” is an ILLUSION.

Until they do, I and my client can take it easy!


The Khdir:


Being attached to our familiar but ephemeral personality

is no less an addiction as to drugs.


Words of Power:


Every trace of my old personality has been dissolved

once and for all.


Personality is only ripe when a man has made

the truth his own.” Kierkegaard


“When you are no longer a person,there will no longer

be any personal problems.”



Living it:

From “The Quest”:


The problem that I soon encountered in my Yoga is that after I acquired a strong, well defined personality which could be a good instrument to serve the Divine…


it became an even stronger barrier between myself and Him

than my old and confused one had been.


It took me quite a while to realize that I am not such personality but …the Scriptwriter behind the curtain of the playacting of my life.

The classical example made by many Teachers with this or similar metaphors is that:


The “person” is merely a mirage, just like the space within a room

appears to have the very same shape, volume

and even smell as the room.


Expecting our superficial personality to survive the death of our body


is like expecting that a town will still be there after all its buildings

were razed to the ground.


Do you perchance have any such expectations?

Why do you care so much for your personality?

It was never real in the first place.

It was never really YOU.

As Nisargadatta Maharaj pointed out,:


“When you believe yourself to be a person,

you see persons everywhere.


In reality there are no persons, only threads of memories

and habits. At the moment of realization,

the person ceases.”


Question/ko’han 1 to 4:

Are you still attached to your old personality?


How does it make you feel?

Are you SURE that you are not being deceived by it?

Question/ko’han 5 to 76:


Love is the only way to feel the true nature of others

beyond the mask of their personality.


Why it is the only way?

Did you ever try it?

If not, what are you waiting for?


Sri Aurobindo has the last word and sums it all up thus:


Personality and impersonality are for the seeker the wings of his spiritual ascension that rises


until it reaches a height in which their fertile interaction will transmute

into a supreme merging manifesting in the action

the original power of the Divine.




1) Remember that everyone has not just one

but various personalities: list how many do you have. The major will do at first, there are far too many minor, secondary ones.


– Consider which of them is more in harmony

with the truth of your being and the Mission of your Soul.


– For the time being assume it as your new personality.



how will you deal with all the others.


2) Ask yourself:


As my true Self is forever changeless, what is in me that accepts

my ever-changing “personality”?


– Determine and define which is the real nature

of your various personalities in order of importance.

For example:


– The Seeker;

– The Lover, or the one who needs love;

– The Worldly One, or the one still attracted by many worldly things;

The Artist;

– The responsible Mother or Father;

– The Rebel;

– The…


Then transcend them all.


3) Meditate on these words of Mere:


Most people seem to look upon surrender as an abdication of the personality; but that is a grievous error.


For the individual is meant to manifest one aspect

of the Divine Consciousness,


and the expression of its characteristic nature is what creates his personality; then, by taking the right attitude towards the Divine,


this personality is purified of all the influences of the lower nature which diminish and distort it and it becomes more strongly personal,

more itself, more complete.


The truth and power of the personality come out with a more resplendent distinctness, its character is more precisely marked than it could possibly be when mixed with all the obscurity and ignorance, all the dirt and alloy of the lower nature.


It undergoes a heightening and glorification, an aggrandizement

of capacity, a realisation of the maximum

of its possibilities.


But to have this sublimating change,


he must first give up all that, by distorting, limiting and obscuring

the true nature, fetters and debases and disfigures

the true personality;


he must throw from him whatever belongs to the ignorant lower movements of the ordinary man and his blind limping ordinary life.


And first of all he must give up his desires; for desire is the most obscure

and the most obscuring movement of the lower nature




1) These words of Ouspensky:


Study of false personality is one of the quickest methods

for self-remembering.


The more you understand your false personality,

the more you will remember yourself.


What prevents self-remembering is, first of all, false personality. It cannot and does not wish to remember itself, and it does not wish to let any other personality remember. It tries in every possible way to stop self-remembering, takes some form of sleep and calls it self-remembering.

Then it is quite happy.


You must not trust your false personality – its ideas, its words, its actions.

You cannot destroy it, but you can make it passive for some time

and then, little by little, you can make it weaker.


2) This passage of Nisargadatta Maharaj


As long as we imagine ourselves to be separate personalities,one quite apart from another,we cannot grasp reality which is essentially impersonal.

First we must know ourselves as witness only, dimensionless

and timeless centers of observation,

and then realise that immense ocean of pure awareness, which is both mind and matter and beyond both.

3) These words of Mère:


You must go deep, deep within, and find the eternal essence of your being

to know the creative reality in yourself.


And once you have found that, you will realise that it is one single thing, the same in all others, and so where is your separate personality? Nothing’s left any longer.


This sense of one’s own person becomes a kind of cage, a prison which

shuts you in, prevents you from being true, from knowing truly,

acting truly, understanding truly.


It is as though someone had put you in a very hard shell

and you were compelled to stay there.


This is the first sensation you have. Afterwards you begin to tap against the shell in order to break it. Sometimes it resists very long…


when you pass from this to the consciousness that this is a prison

preventing you from being truly yourself, then you

have made great progress, and there is hope.


You feel yourself stifled, crushed, absolutely shut up in a prison without air, without light, without an opening, and then you begin pushing from inside, pushing, pushing, pushing so that it may break. And the day it breaks, the day it opens, suddenly,


you enter the psychic consciousness. And then you understand. And then,

truly, if you have a sense of humour, you laugh;

you realise your stupidity.




Personality? to play with it

a lot of fun seemed at first,

but decades took me

to get rid of it at last!




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