LOVE – THE WAY – MERE
Human nature is so limited, so full of contradictions and so exclusive in its movements that if one wants to reject love in its lower form, that is to say, human love as human beings experience it,
if one makes an inner effort to reject it, one usually
rejects the entire capacity of feeling love
and becomes like a stone.
And then sometimes one has to wait for years or centuries before there is a reawakening in oneself of the capacity to receive and manifest love.
Therefore, the best way when love comes, in whatever form it may be, is to try
and pierce through its outer appearance and ﬁnd the divine principle
which is behind and which gives it existence.
Naturally, it is full of snares and difficulties, but it is more effective. That is to say,
instead of ceasing to love because one loves wrongly, one must cease
to love wrongly and want to love well.
For instance, love between human beings, in all its forms, the love of parents for children, of children for parents, of brothers and sisters, of friends and lovers, is all tainted with ignorance, selﬁshness and all the other defects which are man’s ordinary drawbacks; so instead of completely ceasing to love -which, besides, is very difﬁcult as Sri Aurobindo says, which would simply dry up the heart and serve no end—
one must learn how to love better: to love with devotion, with self-giving,
self- abnegation, and to struggle, not against love itself,
but against its distorted forms:
against all forms of monopolizing, of attachment, possessiveness, jealousy, and all the feelings which accompany these main movements.
Not to want to possess, to dominate; and not to want to impose
one’s will, one’s whims, one’s desires; not to want
to take, to receive, but to give;
not to insist on the other’s response, but be content with one’s own love; not to seek one’s personal interest and joy and the fulfillment of one’s personal desire,
but to be satisﬁed with the giving of one’s love and affection;
and not to ask for any response.
Simply to be happy to love, nothing more. If you do that, you have taken a great stride forward and can, through this attitude, gradually advance farther in the feeling itself, and realise one day that
love is not something personal,
that love is a universal divine feeling which manifests through you
more or less ﬁnely, but which in its essence
is something divine.
When Mère asked the Divine about love His reply to Her was:
Love me in all things, everywhere and in all beings” was Thy reply.
I prostrate myself before Thee and ask of Thee
to give me that power.