LOVE – THE SECRET
The Mantra: Om Prema Prachodayate
Love’s ultimate secret abides far beyond our ego,
the false self-image of ourselves.
Learn love from flowers, which manifest their love
in a language known only to the heart.
a) Krishna in the Bhagavad Ghita introduces the issue thus:
Look at Me, Arjuna! If I stop from work for one moment, the whole universe will die.
I have nothing to gain from work; I am the one Lord, but why
do I work? Because I love the world.
Do you love the world, notwithstanding all its imperfections?
The essential Question is:
When you say that you love someone,
what does your love really mean?
In order to be able to truly say “I love you” a subject who loves must be there
But in real love no subject can ever be there,
only the love.
We can only truly love when our “I” is dissolved
in the ocean of our inner being.
Finding the secret of true love is only possible by opening completely our heart and mind, being defenseless and vulnerable, and if it needs to be accepting to suffer because real love means letting the person you love be always utterly free.
Including free of leaving you.
Only then you can merge in the Divine’s
ocean of Love.
Can you FEEL, not just “believe” that you are in the love of the Divine?
If not, why not?
It will come.
As Rumi said:
It is as if Love’s radiant oil never stops searching
for a lamp in which to burn.
b) True Love is the realization that others are secretly the Divine
and that we also are Him.
Once we have found true Love,
we have found the Divine at the same time
and all is accomplished.
Love is not a consolation
What does this imply?
Never forget that
the true accomplishment of love
is in the loving itself,
not merely in its enjoyment:
when we have in our heart the delight and ecstasy of love’s infinite mystery
we find the world around us so changed and wonderful
that it is for us entirely new.
Hamid al-Din Kirmani said here:
At first, your love’s way so easy seemed I thought so rapidly our union
I would reach, but after just a few steps
like a vast ocean the way became, and as I stepped into it
a wave swept me away…
According to Dr Edwin Zappe, the Germanic goddess of love and marriage is called “Freia” (free), and
A really free person loves, also loves
c) Love’s hunger can be even greater than the one for bread
because being loved by another can teach us to love ourselves at last and heals
True Love is self-giving without asking for anything in exchange,
and is the most intense, exhilarating experience
we can have on earth.
Because it lifts us up from all suffering and uncertainty into the arms
of the Divine, the bliss of perfect union.
In the Corinthian there is this famous passage:
If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and knowledge,
have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love,
I am nothing.
Can you FEEL, not just believe, that you have no love you are nothing?
How much love do you have?
Is actually much more than that, but so few know it yet.
The reason is that we don’t express it enough.
Why don’t you express it enough?
Find it out.
All the forms that love takes in the our consciousness are but awkward attempts, deformed and incomplete,
to find again the infinity of His Love,
which is the very essence of the Manifestation and the only
thing which can teach us how to live
and truly be ourselves.
Mère adds that:
That is the great Secret, that which is behind the Existent
and the Non-Existent, the Personal
and the Impersonal – Love.
Not a love between two things, two beings…
a love containing everything.
How many people and things does your love contain?
d) The secret of love is in the loving itself,
and to discover it we must always go on and on in a dimension where neither our reason nor our identification with our superficial “I” can follow us.
When our love is true we accept the loved ones as they are and never attempt
to change them according to our idea of how they ought to be
otherwise what we call “love” can only be a mere appearance, the reflection of our egoistic expectations about them.
Can you accept your loved ones
AS THEY ARE?
Of course you may help them to grow inwardly if they are open to it,
but only after you have first completely accepted them as they are
notwithstanding all their imperfections.
Can you completely accept them so?
Antoine De Saint-Exupery adds that:
Love does not consist in gazing at each other,
but in looking together in the same direction.
Dostoyevsky was not a Teacher, but here spoke as one:
If you love everything, you will discover His Mystery in all things, for then
your ability to perceive the truth will constantly grow,
and your mind will open itself to
an all-embracing love.
Gangaji makes a very important point:
Love is the Satguru (our Inner Teacher).
Love is the teacher. Love, finally, if you’re willing to
surrender to it, rather than to try and control it,
love teaches you who you are.
What are you learning from Love as the teacher?
The way that Rumi put it is:
This is love: to fly toward a secret sky,
to cause a hundred veils to fall each moment. First to let go of life.
Finally, take a step without feet.
How will you take a step without feet?
e) The reason that so few of us are really able to truly, deeply love
is that most are afraid of it because of their subliminal awareness that
love requires letting go of their ego and self-image, which is almost all
they know and are identified with.
They attempt to get some love without letting go them,
a most frustrating and desultory endeavor.
C.S. Lewis points out that:
To love at all is to be vulnerable.
Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly broken.
If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give
your heart to no one, not even to an animal.
It is recorded that when the Kabuli was asked about the secret of love he remained silent for a very long time and then as all answer…gave the enquirer a basket of oranges which had just been brought him by a visiting dervish from Turkey.
How does such gesture explain the secret of love?
The Veil hides the secret of love in the limitations
of each individual love.
In the Dreamgame, the Secret of Love is always our greatest ASSET because with it we can use all its power in the awareness that hidden behind the limited, imperfect and often very selfish human love is the Divine always trying to lift us up to the ultimate wonder and supreme intensity of His Love.
If we are receptive enough to it, that is.
If the fullness of Divine Love came down on us in all its pure original state
there would be nothing more powerful, but the selfish
human “love” remains so far from it.
As Course in Miracles affirms:
Every loving thought is true. Everything else is
an appeal for healing or help, regardless
of the form that it takes.
The Devil’s Advocate:
There is no secret about love: everyone should know by now that it is one of the most impermanent chemical reactions caused by human hormones!
In the Corinthians there is this passage: “If you speak in the tongues of men and of angels but have not love you are only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal.”
My client says that this is pure, unadulterated FLATTERY of the grossest kind: you are more like a noisy, deafening claxon in the mightiest traffic jam!
My Voice through the ages always warned that before you can reach
true Love you must first find yourself: how can you love
if you aren’t quite here in any real sense?
Words of Power:
May I never forget that the secret of true love is YOU,
and that what we really love
is love itself.
“In Love no longer “thou” and “I” exist, for the Self
has passed away in the Beloved.”
Farid al-Din Attar
“Love is self-awareness; love is self-knowledge.”
“Love is all unsatisfied that cannot take
the whole body and soul.” Yeats
Can your love take the whole body and soul?
If not, why not?
“Love is nothing other than finding the truth.”
“Love is a yearning of the One for the One.”
After he finally found the Path, Vijay intensely fascinated by the secret of love even when he hadn’t yet experienced it, and acts of kindness and generosity always surprised him because he us usually expected the opposite.
A sentence by Van der Post corresponds exactly as how he used to see Love:
“Love is the aboriginal tracker, the Bushman
on the faded desert spoor
of our lost selves.”
In a certain sense the author is this aboriginal tracker, this bushman, and eventually Mère managed to make Vijay experience Divine Love as the deepest, most intense experience we can have on earth and made him realize that
when we truly love someone there’s no longer any “I” or an “other,
and then only an infinite ocean of Love is left.
Then all is accomplished.
If love’s infinite mystery doesn’t fascinates you each instant
of your life with the utmost intensity,
what is wrong with you?
Fearing love means fearing life itself, and those who do
are not really alive in any real sense.
Do you ever fear love? Why, besides the obvious?
Love isn’t a compulsion, an emotion or a feeling, like most believe,
but an art.
In which sense is love an art?
Someone said that
Love is what light feels like.
Do you feel it like that?
Question/ko’han 5 and 6:
Rumi said that
Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere;
they’re in each other all along.
Can you FEEL this?
It can’t be understood with the human mind at all.
according to Farid ud Din Attar,
The loved one, the lover and love
What does this means in human terms?
Jack Kerouac has the last word:
I love you because you’re me. I love you because there’s
nothing else to do. It’s just the natural
Why do YOU love someone?
1) Concentrate exclusively, wholeheartedly on the unconditional Love of the Divine and lose yourself utterly in it at the exclusion of all else.
– Then incorporate it on all levels of your life even when you are just doing such humble things as washing the dishes.
2) Meditate on these inspiring verses of Fakhruddin Iraqi
Behind the screen Love plays its lute,
but where is a lover listening to its tune?
With every breath a new song is sung,
each split second a new string rings out.
Every atom the mystery murmurs…
Listen yourself if you don’t believe me.
How often do you listen to yourself?
3) Meditate also on these words of Nisargadatta Maharaj:
It is in the nature of love to express itself, to affirm itself,
to overcome difficulties.
Once you have understood that the world is love in action, you will look at it quite differently.
But first your attitude to suffering must change.
Suffering is primarily a call for attention, which itself is a movement of love.
More than happiness, love wants growth, the widening and deepening
of consciousness and being. Whatever prevents becomes
a cause of pain, and love does not shirk from pain.
1) These already mentioned words of Rumi:
This is love: to fly toward a secret sky, to cause a hundred veils
to fall each moment. First to let go of life. Finally,
take a step without feet.
Or rather, without the human mind.
– Ask yourself then:
How can I fly towards a secret sky?
How many of my veils have already fallen?
In which sense we should to let go of life?
Am I ready to do that?
How will I take a step without feet?
2) These words from Anna in the wonderful book “Mister God this is Anna”:
“Let Mister God be. He lets us be.”
“No. We put Mister God into little boxes.”
“Surely we don’t do that!”
Yes, all the time. Because we don’t really love Him.
We got to let Mister God be free.
That’s what love is.
Love secret way is having no need
nor cares, no roots at all in this world,
then no dark Veil can ever form between us
and the Beloved forever seeking us.